Dear Lady. Ann:
My Fiancé and I started dating when we were both 15. He was my first love. We do everything together and have the same circle of friends. We graduated from the same High school and have been through so much together. We have been together for 10 years and now have 2 kids together. Our relationship hasn’t always been smooth as you can imagine. I think I matured sooner than he did and that caused a lot of issues between us.
We have also broken it off a few times, but we always found our way back to each other. He is the only man I have ever been with, but he has been with a few other women during and outside of our relationship; also one of the biggest issues we have battled in the past 10 years. Sex in high school wasn’t really about pleasure for me, it was more about getting to do it too like my other friends. No one really taught me what pleasure feels like, and I wasn’t bothered by it. But now things have changed for me. I am more matured and I feel like I need more than what I have been getting sexually from him. I know he gets satisfied, but I don’t. I have told him a few times that we need to spice things up for me, but it’s still not cutting it for me. I think he’s just not doing IT right and he probably doesn’t even know how to. I’m also not attracted to him anymore.
I do love him and love our family, but you know
-Engaged But Unsatisfied
#DLATribe, any tips for a better sex life?