Dear Lady. Ann:
Where Do I Begin?? Sorry, it’s a long narration. I’m a young lady. Not so young though, 27 years old, graduated last year with a first degree, not working yet and really worried about that a lot. I have concerns about my “future husband” considering I am a lukewarm christian☹️ but grateful for this page that I stumbled upon. November last year I began talking to a man on Facebook (he’s in America) who didn’t beat about the bush with his intentions to court and marry me. He is 39 and separated from the wife for two years, now seeking divorce. Has two sons who are in the same country as me ( Malawi). He is a believer and he’s dedicated to make this relationship work. Currently we are trying to work out a way for me to move to where he is, we have timed it to November being a dateline.
Then in January this year I re-established communication with another man, who’s in a city close by. We’ve been friends on Facebook since 2017 but he never asked to court me. Then we lost touch due to some issues in 2018 June, only for him to make his intentions known this year in January and we met in February face to face. We have become close, and he wants us to get married next year. This being the case and us being African, you know the processes that lead to marriage involve family.
I’m here now because we plan to visit his mum next week and I don’t know if I should do so considering I have two men in my life.
P.S.: I can’t say I’m in love with either of these 2 men, could be as a result of past trauma, I don’t know. They are both just good men to me and I’m comfortable with both.