Dear Lady. Ann:
My husband is a selfish man. Before we got married, I had no financial expectations of him. I am a very independent woman, so I pay my own bills and expect nothing from no man. Even when we went out on dates or trips together, I always insisted on splitting the bill. I remember how he constantly mentioned how grateful he was to have an independent woman. I work very hard and he knows it. My friends used to advise me to let him take care of me sometimes, but I hated the idea of a man taking care of me.
Now that we are married, I wish I wasn’t so independent. Marriage has revealed so much about our financial habits, it makes me regret everything sometimes. My husband works his 9-5 just like I do. The bills have always been 50-50. He pays the mortgage and I pay the other major bills. When you calculate what we each spend, it’s almost the same amount. But my husband says his bills take up most of his salary, leaving him with very little to play with. So, he is constantly asking more of me financially. But I found out he lied to me. He does have enough money to play around with after he has paid the mortgage – way more than he initially told me. I have confronted him, and he says he wasn’t lying to me, but he felt like I had way more money to play with, while he struggled to have a life after paying the bills. That is such a lie. He gets to do whatever he wants to do with what is left of his salary. I think he hates the fact that I earn more than him but only spend as much as he does in bills. I am more hardworking than he is, hence why I earn more. If he wants more money to play around with, then he should get a better paying job. I would never be okay with me covering more bills than him. I would be sponsoring his laziness and I can’t do that. He’s not talking to me because I insisted he continues to pay the bills and get a better job if he wants more money. What do y’all think? Am I doing the most?
-Independent Wife
#DLATribe, should she pay more bills because she earns more?