Dear Lady. Ann:
My husband and I have been trying to have a baby for 2 years. I have been pregnant a few times but I end up losing the pregnancy. My husband has two kids with his ex, a boy and a girl. The kids are with his ex but they come over to our place every other weekend. I have loved those kids like they are mine. I have catered for them and we all have an amazing relationship.
Last weekend, my husband wasn’t going to be home early enough to go pick them up, so he asked me to go pick them up. I called his ex to inform her that I would be the one picking them up and she went crazy on me. She got so angry and said she has no business with me but my husband. After calling my husband several names, I responded saying he was an amazing father and he would have loved to pick them up himself. She shut me up and said I should mind my f**king business and try “reviving my dead womb that keeps killing my babies.” No one else knows I have had several miscarriages except my husband and my best friend. I was shocked, heartbroken and bitter. I responded with “God bless you” and hung up. My husband kept calling me to find out if I had picked the kids, but I could barely talk.
He got worried and rushed home, then I told him what had happened. I asked him why his ex is aware of my struggles when I had only told him and my best friend, then he said he had told his brother. I know he is very close with his brother, but it wasn’t his place! His brother is also close to his ex, hence why his ex knows. His whole family probably knows I have been struggling with fertility. I can’t describe the pains I feel. I haven’t spoken a word to my husband since then, and he keeps apologizing. I know I should forgive him but I am so hurt. I really want my own child and each miscarriage has killed a part of me. Why do I have to also deal with insults and humiliation?
-Destroyed
#DLATribe, how can she heal from all she is going through?