Dear Lady. Ann:
I don’t know where to start because my heart is so broken and I believe it’s only the grace of God that can bring me out of this, if I ever will make it out. I’m a Christian and I’ve been married for almost 16 years with 3 wonderful children the Lord has blessed us with. I have believed that my marriage is solid and we were going strong only to find out that my beloved husband whom I worship even to his foot prints (just as you taught us in your messages) is having an affair with a married woman. This affair started since August 2019 when we all traveled to Nigeria and he went for his high school reunion. He and this woman have been send private messages declaring love to one another, having video calls and phone sex at midnight when I’m asleep. All his breaks at work he doesn’t call anymore because he uses it for her and even when I call him he tells me that his break is over and he needs to go.
Fast forward to this year 2020, March he traveled to Turkey saying he was going on a business trip. I asked some questions because he had never mentioned Turkey before or if he knew or had friends there. But he just continued to give excuses only for me to find out that he went there to physically meet the lady where they lodged in a hotel for almost 2 weeks. I have pleaded, begged on my knees to my husband if there was anything I did or anyway I’ve offended him that I was sorry and I forgive him, but he should leave this woman and take control of his home, but he keeps denying that nothing is going on.
Ma I have so many evidences but he keeps denying. Last night, he told me that the marriage is over and he didn’t want me anymore, he slept in another room and left our matrimonial bedroom. I’m scared because if this woman’s husband finds out, he will have him killed being a well known figure in the eastern part of Nigeria. I don’t want to be a widow, I don’t want my children to be fatherless. I don’t want my marriage to break up. I really love my husband. Please ma, I’ve come to you as my mum as I just lost her last August, I have no one to speak to. I can’t tell my family members because I don’t want him to lose the respect they have for him. Please ma what do I do? My heart is so broken into many tiny pieces.