Dear Lady. Ann:
I’ve been with my husband for 5 years and we have been married for 3 years. He doesn’t really know Jesus, but I’m doing my best to bring him to God and he is doing his best to grow his faith. He is a very logical person and has a very hard time showing his emotions. Since the beginning, our sex life has been problematic. He rarely has any desire for me, and when he does, he doesn’t put any effort to make it enjoyable for me. I’ve tried all the womanly tricks that I know, and I’m simply exhausted.
He acts as if it is a failure for him as a person to satisfy me. As if, when I get what I desire it’s a bad thing for him. In general, he is always quick to stop me when I’m excited about anything. The way I see it, is that he wants to give me what he wants but not what I want. Other than that we get along fine. But I’m tired to have to suppress my desires and fight for my husband favors and kindness all the time. I don’t understand our marriage. I wonder if bad spirits are doing this, I wonder why God led me to a man that ultimately doesn’t want to enjoy neither my beauty nor my love.
Please pray for me.
Thank you.