Dear Lady. Ann:
I feel terribly ashamed to be sharing this with anyone, but I have been quiet about it and it’s killing me inside. My husband and I have been married for almost 7 years and I am pregnant with our third child. I was done having babies after my second child, because I wanted to focus on building my business and being there for my babies. But I changed birth control, and I guess something went wrong. Anyway, we have a baby on the way, but my whole world just came crumbling down on me.
My husband confessed to having an affair with some girl. The thing is, I had absolutely no clue. I must have been so busy with my business and kids that I didn’t notice he had been cheating on me. Why are some men like this? The only reason he even confessed it to me is because the woman he cheated with might be pregnant for him. He has apologized a million times and has begged me not to tell anyone, not even our kids. Of course, he wouldn’t want to tell anyone, because he is so active in church, and people would be shocked and disappointed to hear about this. Now, I’m overwhelmed with this information and I can’t even share it with my close friends or family. I have hardly slept since he told me. He still sleeps on the same bed with me because he doesn’t want the kids to sense anything, but I am so disgusted each time I see him. I don’t even know if I still want to be with him as a couple.
My kids are definitely sensing I have been unhappy, but I keep lying to them that it’s the pregnancy. What do I do please? I can’t even express my hurt because he’s trying to protect his image; what a bastard! I trusted him, all these years I have stood by him, supported him, loved him and even been the provider when he lost his job. He had one job, one job only! I need advice please!
-Broken Wife
#DLATribe, what words of encouragement can we give to this queen?