Dear Lady. Ann:
I live in the USA but originally Africa. I met my husband again 2012 after 5 years we had lost communication when dating when he left for the States. We reunited and decided that we should settle in marriage which we did in 2013. I got pregnant and today we have 2 kids (7 years and a 14 months old baby). But prior, we both had kids separately who are now adults, 20years and 18years. In 2017, I joined my husband to the USA with all the kids (including those outside our marriage). Things began to unfold with lots of deceptive behavior in my husband. He is not transparent in how we manage finances.
We had a joint account which he had control over while I was working overseas and my salary was getting into that account. But I never queried him for my intentions were genuine and therefore expected same. However we both had plans to setup development projects in Sierra Leone which didn’t happen and I never got update nor involved in those decisions. I later realized that his elder brother back home whom I trusted very much happened to be the traitor. He persuaded my husband to cancel our project plans and he ended up taking control over all that me and my husband have invested in Sierra Leone.
Another interesting part of it is that my husband has not disconnected himself from my step daughter’s mother. She once called me directly to express her feelings about my relationship with her daughter which was all lies. I love her daughter for she has been with me since age 12. I never mistreated her. But today I have seen the worst of dishonor in my marriage. The girl doesn’t recognize me anymore as the wife. My husband has a mistress in this country which I discovered a year ago. So my stepdaughter is in close relationship with the mistress. There’s a circle of plot against me: my husband’s brother, my stepdaughter’s mother, my husband’s mistress and my husband. They all know each other and they communicate very well. My husband is in the center of it all. He is been manipulated to the extent that he doesn’t have time for the little kids except his daughter.
In August last year my husband told me he wants a divorce. He went further and asked that we should be separated while living in the same house until the divorce comes through. I succumb to every request he made because at this moment I’m vulnerable for I don’t make the finances that I used to make before now. However he became verbally abusive to me. I called the cops as the situation was getting out of control and I needed space to be able to focus. Things got better in terms of the atmosphere in the home after the cops issued him warning to stay away from me. It has taken 4 months now we are in the same situation living in the same house. He doesn’t take care of me or give time for his kids. He spends the most of his time out. He sleeps in the living while I remain in the bedroom with the kids. The relationship is getting toxic by day. My stepdaughter would be home talking about his father’s mistress in my presence. So much disrespect. I have a feeling that he is not going to divorce me legally. I’m confined in mental slavery and emotional torture. Every part of me is static.
My eyes are out of tears now. Please I need your spiritual support guidance. I pray for God to get me out of this bondage.
God bless you!