My Fiancé’s Daughter Wants To Tear Us Apart

Dear Lady. Ann:

My fiancé and I have been together for 2 years. He is an amazing man and he’s been nothing but good to me. I don’t have a child yet, but my fiancé is 45 and he has a daughter from his previous marriage. He loves his daughter so much and I used to love that about him. Seeing a man who treated his daughter with so much love and care made me want him more. But this has become my biggest battle in my relationship.

The problem is his daughter. I have been good to her from the get-go, but she has been nothing but mean and manipulative towards me. I think my fiancé spoilt her after his divorce and she is afraid she will no longer be the center of attention when he marries me. She is 21. Our whole life revolves around her. Whenever we decide to spend some time together, she either calls him or something comes up that concerns her. He tells her everything and I am constantly begging him to not share some private things about us with her. I keep telling him she is being manipulative, but he doesn’t see it that way. I have run out of options on what to do. I’m engaged but living like I am single. How can I handle this situation?

-Tired Stepmother

#DLATribe, how can she handle this situation? Should she talk to her to-be step daughter?

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