Mon | Mar 18, 2019

My Fiancé Goes Out On Dates With His Female Friends Without Me



Dear Lady. Ann:

My fiancé and I have been together for 5 years and we recently got engaged. I love him so much and would love to spend the rest of my life with him. I moved in with him after our engagement a year ago and we plan on getting married in a year or two. I am ready to get married now but he is studying part-time and insists on finishing with his degree first before we can get married.  

The problem we are having now is that he has stopped making efforts towards me. I know we have been dating for a while, so it is possible to slide into routine, but I wish he paid more attention to me; complemented hew hair styles or dresses; went out on dates with me; liked my posts on social media instead of ignoring me. He used to do all these things at the beginning of our relationship, but now he does it for other women. He has lots of female friends, and there is one he literally goes out on dates with every other week.

They have been friends for years and he claims to have always had more female friends than male friends. There have been times he has picked me up from work with his female friend in the car, and she would act like I was not there. I end up seating at the back like I am not his wife to be. I keep telling him that it is his duty to tell her to go to the back when he comes to pick me up. I also told him it was disrespectful towards me to go out on dates with other women without me being there, but he feels like I am becoming too obsessive and demanding. Is he right? Is it okay for him to hang out with a female friend without me being there? Shouldn’t we be consistent in our relationship? I need answers, please.

-Jealous

#DLATribe how should she handle the situation with her fiancé?