Dear Lady. Ann:
Over a year ago I went for a deliverance ministry and got finally healed and moved past all my broken relationships that I had with men. I began to pray that God would bring me a Godly spouse and that he wouldn’t let me fall in love for the wrong man. A year ago I met a man who started to pursue me. He lived with a Christian family and was kind and very respectful but not really a Christian. We started dating and I told him what my values were (no sex before marriage, raising Christian family, etc.). He was not opposing to it as he doesn’t deny the existence of God but He’s still searching for answers that he’s not clear about. He went to church with me few times when covid eased a bit.
Anyways, I’m just struggling because he’s the best guy I have ever dated and this has been the longest relationship I have been in. He’s not perfect but he tries to be a good man to me. Nonetheless, I feel that because he is not a Christian that this relationship won’t work. And I always get anxious about it and start looking for flaws in him and why I shouldn’t date him while he is truly a great man. I just don’t know what to do. My sister married a man who was first unbeliever and later on he accepted Christ. I know everyone’s life is different. I really want to walk in God’s will. Please pray for God to give me clarity, strength, courage and peace to make the right decision. I believe God can change his heart but I also believe that he wants me to be in the right relationship that will glorify Him.
I’m 31, with a great man at my side and I’m closer to God than I’ve ever been. But I am scared of being single again as most my life I have been single and watching all my friends get married and I just feel its my time to be married and have a family. I don’t have passion pursuing anything right now except family and God. Friends are going back to schools, building their own businesses and all I want right now is to have a family. So if this is the man for me, I really want peace about it, and if not, I ask, with my most sincere heart, for courage and strength to walk away from him. Please keep me in your prayers!
God bless you!