Dear Lady. Ann:
My best friend and I have been friends since we were kids. We have a great relationship and we are always there for each other. I love her so much and would literarily do almost anything for her, except for one thing; lend her money. She spends money on so many irrelevant things and ends up broke before the next paycheck. I am more of a saver and it has helped me a lot.
I used to lend her money all the time and every time I ask her to pay back, she gives me an attitude. I hate arguing with her, so I end up never bringing up her debts. Things were different this time because I think she is taking advantage of my kind heart towards her. She asked me for some money and I said no. I was honest with her and told her I knew she would never pay me back, because she has never paid me back. She got very upset with me.
Although I know the importance of the money this time, I still feel I need to put a stop to this pattern. She felt I was being self-centered, and she claimed she would have paid me all my money back if I had asked. That pissed me off, because I have always asked for my money back and she has always had one stupid excuse or the other. Her financial issues are due to her lack of discipline. We got into a terrible argument and words were spoken that shouldn’t have been said. I said things, she said things and she said she never wanted to see me again. Its been a few weeks and I am beginning to feel bad about everything. Maybe I should have just gone ahead and given her the money, because I know she really needed it this time. I am thinking of reaching out to her personally, because she blocked me on all social media platforms. What can I do to get my friend back?
-Missing My Best Friend
#DLATribe should she reach out to her best friend again?