Dear Lady. Ann:
I recently turned 40 and a lot has been on my mind. I had a lot of fun dating during my 20s and 30s but it’s all slowed down now; which is no fault of mine. I decided at a very young age that I wanted to be a successful entrepreneur. We all know that black women need to work thrice as hard to achieve half the result of the other sex and I knew having a serious relationship would slow me down.
Fortunately, I have gotten to a really good place economically, but I am still not as happy as I had hoped I would be. I now desire a long-term relationship with someone as committed as I am willing to be, but the kind of men that keep approaching me are all looking for a fling. It feels like my options are reducing the older I get. I want a man who has got his stuff figured out. He doesn’t have to be as successful as I am but he has to be on to something. I wouldn’t mind a younger man, but he has to be a serious about this.
Was I wrong for deciding to solely focus on my career and just have fun in the past? I find it hard to believe that it is possible to climb a career ladder as high as I have done with a partner/family present. I think one always has to suffer for the other, and I chose love and family to take the back seat, but was that a mistake? I get home to a lonely bed and it gets me thinking all night. Is it too late for me?
-Regrets?
#DLATribe, do you think its too late for her to find love?