Dear Lady. Ann:
It’s hard for me to talk about my situation because of the sadness I feel. I am going to try to sum up my situation the best I can. I fell in love with someone at the age of 12. As children, we dated until I was 18 years old and went away to college. While I was away he committed a crime and became incarcerated. Over the course of our adult life we maintained contact and continued to be very close friends. He had always confessed his love to me and I to him. And November 2016 we entered into a committed relationship, at least I thought.
From then until 2019 I did all the things that a girlfriend of an inmate would do. I wrote letters, went to visit, sent money and prayed for God to intercede on both of our behalf as pertaining to his release. He was released in June of 2019 and came home to a pretty stable life. Got all the necessary things to live a productive life including a good job. 1 month after being home I caught him cheating and found out that he had been communicating with this person the entire time of our relationship. He asked my forgiveness and I forgave him and tried to move on. For the next 8 months I will continue to be cheated on, embarrassed and humiliated by him.
I finally decided in February that this was not good for me and ask him to move out. Although we were physically not together my heart continue to stay in the same place. Now I am dealing with so many emotions that he continues to support by telling me that he loves me and he knows that I am the person God created to be his helpmate. At one time he had a very strong relationship with God and God’s word but now I don’t see much of that in his actions and not just his actions toward me but his daily actions and movements. I am in extreme pain due to this. I don’t understand how God could allow this to happen. I don’t know if I’m supposed to move on or hold my space until God does a new work in him. Please pray for me.