Dear Lady. Ann:
I have had a very tough life. I was sexually molested when I was 12 by someone very close to my family. When I finally had the courage to tell my parents, no one believed me. The hurt and bitterness followed me for years. Although my mother later believed me when other kids started speaking up, but the damage had been done in my life. Every relationship I started was a mess. I sought love, hoping it’d take away the indescribable pain I felt in my heart, but nobody could help me. Instead, I had men take advantage of my hurt and just break me the more.
The last guy I dated was different. He only wanted the best for me and kept trying to make me go for therapy. He genuinely loved me, but I wasn’t used to that kind of love. I couldn’t handle having someone care about my wellbeing. I felt he was trying to control my life. I misinterpreted every action or move. I fought him so hard, smh. I ended the relationship and although he tried to get me back, I wouldn’t listen. He moved on and so did I. A year after, I decided to go for therapy and started trying to build a better life for myself. It has been a few years now and I can boldly say I am not who I used to be. I’m not where I want to be yet, but I’m proud of how far I have come.
My ex and I got in contact again, and he has also become a better man than he used to be. He was really proud of how I had developed emotionally and financially. We have been talking more often and the feelings I had for him are back again. This is the best man I’ve ever been with and I would love for us to start over. The problem is he hasn’t made any move towards me and I don’t know if he is seeing another woman. I don’t know how to tell him I want him back. How do I go about it?
-New Creature
#DLATribe, Should she tell him how she feels? What’s the best way to handle this situation?