Dear Lady. Ann:
I am a 29 yo lady who was with a 45yo man. As I am writing this, I have been devastated for the past 3 months after realizing that this man I was seeing for over two years is married. To say that I did not see any red flags would be a lie. I guess I did not pay enough attention to truly see this man for what he was and we also live in different states so that enabled him to hide this truth for this long. When I discovered it and confronted him 3 months back, he completely denied it. I kept asking him and when I presented him with facts, he blamed me for digging his past, said he could never trust me again and broke it off with me. In fact I called it off when I discovered everything and him reacting was honestly an aftermath. My hurt comes from being blind all this time and buying into his facade to the point of believing he was my soulmate.
He acted perfect, continuously empowered me to be a better woman, you name it. It was a perfect facade. I know it’s not my place, but a part of me wishes the wife would find out the terrible thing he did. But I know it’s not my place. If I had known this day 1, I would have FLED from this married man because I am not a homewrecker. Lady. Ann, how do I pick up my shattered heart and heal it without losing myself? I feel my marital destiny is hopeless now. Please help.