Dear Lady. Ann:
I am currently in a relationship that’s been going on for 5 years on and off. We broke up about 3 years ago because I cheated. I mean, I didn’t have sex with the other man, but it was more of an emotional affair. I just felt like my boyfriend was not meeting my emotional needs then and there came this other man who had all the right words to say. It was a terrible mistake and I really broke my boyfriend’s heart the day he found out. He ended the relationship, but I tried making him know that I do regret it. He is a great man, I just had other needs he wasn’t meeting at that time.
After being on a break for almost two years, we finally got back together again. I would be the happiest woman in the world if it didn’t feel like he really doesn’t trust me still. He is extremely suspicious of my every move. And sometimes, he insists that I must be lying. I literally have to defend my every move. It is so exhausting and I keep telling him that I feel he hasn’t really forgiven me. But he claims he has, he just never wants to be taken unaware again like I did him the last time. I have promised him that it was a one time mistake never to repeat itself again, but he is still insecure. I don’t know how much further we can go on like this. I don’t know what else to do. Please help!