Tue | Apr 9, 2019

I Still Want To Have Sex With My Ex



Dear Lady. Ann:

My ex and I dated for three years, but we broke up last year. Let’s just say we should have broken up way before then. He was lazy and had no future plans. I tried to help him grow up, but what a fool I must have been to think I can help anyone grow up. I couldn’t stand that part of him and the one million other things he did wrong, hence why I ended it. But there was one thing about us that I really enjoyed, which was the great sex.

I have never had anyone know my body that well and just do IT right. That was all he was good for really, great sex. Now that we are no longer dating, I miss that part of him. I know people say it is never a good idea to try and be friends with the ex, but this would be just a “friends with benefits” kind of thing. He was the one who came up with the idea of us just having sex. I know he still wants to be with me, but I have made it clear that I don’t love him anymore. Even if I agree to his proposal, I made it known that it’d be just two adults having great sex. He actually agreed to it and I want to believe he meant it. So, we met up last weekend and it was great, as always. But ever since then, he keeps texting me about how he loves and misses me. Now, that shit doesn’t fly with me.

I know it might sound selfish that I just want the D but no commitment, but I have endured so much with my ex that you would be tired too of being in a commited relationship with a wrong guy. But there is nothing wrong with us having pure sex. So, my question is how do I manage a purely sexual relationship with an ex without him getting too attached? Has anyone been in a similar position and how did you make sure it stayed that way?

-Not Ready For A Relationship

#DLATribe, is it possible to have a purely sexual relationship with an ex?