Dear Lady. Ann:
I don’t know if this is the right medium to talk about this, but it’s been bothering me since I found out, and I needed a platform to just speak about it and ask people for advice. I got a job a year ago and I had to move away from my family and friends. It’s been very tough for me but that’s not the reason I’m writing. I have very good friends and one of them is happily married, at least that’s what I used to think.
But a few months ago, I was at a party where I wanted to meet new friends. I was having fun when I sighted an old face; it was my friend’s husband. He was dancing really close with another girl at the party. Call me nosey, but I kept my eyes fixed on them. They were kissing, grabbing and every other thing couples would do. I initially thought that must mean he and my friend were either divorced or separated. I’ve been away from home that I could have missed out on that information. I spoke to a mutual friend and just asked if they were still together, and she confirmed my friend was still with her husband. I didn’t share anything else, but I can’t get it out of my mind.
My friend has sacrificed so much for her husband, things I cant even reveal in this letter. The funny thing is every time we have spoken about men who are deadbeats or irresponsible, she has always shared how grateful she was to have a loyal husband and an amazing father. We all mention his name whenever we talk of great men and I am highly disappointed to see him hurt his wife and family like this. I would want my friends to tell me if they knew my spouse was cheating on me. Should I tell her or just keep this secret forever?
-Unwilling Secret Keeper
#DLATribe, should she let her friend know her husband is cheating on her, or just keep quiet about it?