Dear Lady. Ann:
I am a 28-year-old single mom of a 3-year-old. I love my daughter with my whole life and I work so hard to give her the best. I work every other day of the week and she spends a lot of time with my parent when I’m at work. Her father contributes very little to her life. Since he started dating his new girlfriend, it feels like my daughter has become irrelevant to him. He cancels pickups at the last minute and hardly contributes anything to her life.
I am overwhelmed with all I have to do and think of. I am her father and mother and that pisses me off. I have not had a date in 4 years. I never planned to be a single mom, but things happened, and I chose to have my baby. I wish I had someone I could share my life with. I started feeling worse when I found out my ex was in a new relationship.
I have so many fears and self-doubts. I fear good men won’t find me attractive because I have a daughter. I just want to have someone who would build with me and love my daughter and me. How can I feel better about myself? How do I manage my life and not feel so overwhelmed? How do I demand more from my baby daddy? We made this child together and I shouldn’t feel like I am in this all by myself. I’m sick of it. He gets to live his life freely and I feel caged.
-Exhausted Single Mom
#DLATribe, any suggestions on how she can handle the baby daddy situation plus live a happier life?