Dear Lady. Ann:
I consider myself an attractive woman in her late 30s. I have never lacked dates in the past but most of them just wanted sex. But then I met my boyfriend and he was ready to commit from the get-go. He is a great guy that truly loves me. He is very affectionate and recently proposed to me, to which I said yes to. He loves me for who I am and not just for my beauty. He listens to me and would do anything for me. I have really found the best there is. All my friends agree that he is the best there is. I think it is true that older men are more mature and experienced when it comes to loving a woman the right way.
As perfect as he is to me, I have one problem with him; his sex drive is too low. I have a high sex drive and I feel very good about it. I have always enjoyed sex with my past partners and I love trying new things in bed. But with my boyfriend, I am constantly initiating sex with him, to which he hardly ever responds like I would want him to. He either tells me he is too tired, or he’s done after a few minutes. I know he is attracted to me, but I don’t know how to help him increase his sex drive. I would not mind having sex four times in a week, but once a week won’t cut it for me. He keeps saying he is trying to work on it, but the story is still the same. I don’t know what to do and sex is really important to me, but so is a stable and loving relationship like we have. Should I stay or go?
– Sexually Deprived
#DLATribe, can she improve his sex drive? How? Is this a red flag?