Dear Lady. Ann:
I’m a 25 year old girl who has never had a relationship last more than 3 weeks. The longest was barely 5 months and that’s the issue I’m still dealing with. God has always used the gift of dreams and visions to speak to me and concerning this recent issue it started in 2018, I had a dream that a man was coming to marry me (it was more like an event in the realm of the spirit because the dream lasted for almost 3 months) and that he hurt me but I kept hearing “forgive him” In all the dreams. Shortly after the dream I met a man on social media and fell in love. We live in the same city and everything was going good. This man changed me, I became a better person, I became closer to God, I looked up to him so much and I was very happy because I had never had a long relationship before.
All that was short lived, I had a dream that his mother didn’t want him to marry me and he was crying. I was enraged because I expected him to fight back but he was weeping instead ( in real life he’s a very calm and quiet person) we had agreed to be celibate but curiosity got the best of me and I influenced him into breaking that agreement. After that it went really bad. I discovered another girl in his life, he begged and tried to end things with her but the girl wouldn’t go. Shortly after she said she was pregnant (he had already laid with her before we met and after too). I wasn’t surprised because I had heard it in my spirit already. Normally I won’t forgive but in that moment I did.
I would see this girl in my dreams (though I haven’t met her in real life) she would tell me to leave him alone and if I refuse she would try to lock me up or attack me. I became afraid and withdrew from him. This same man that couldn’t go a day without talking to me suddenly didn’t want to see me again and even blocked me. I was confused and depressed, but every time I complain to God I would hear “pray for him” or I’d feel a stillness and calmness come upon me.
I had another series of dreams within a week about him in 2019, I saw that he returned to me / married me and even his mother (whom I have never met) that didn’t want us to get married came back to say “please forgive him, now I know why he loves you, I was wrong about you” in the dream. I told God to confirm His word with a stranger just so I’d be sure I wasn’t dreaming out of desire and in Less than a week, a Muslim client from my job sent me a message saying she dreamt I was getting married.
So I have been holding on to that word, but I think I’m growing tired and weary. Sometime in September last year I dreamt that during his birthday the other girl and her friend (who keep appearing in my dream and telling me to leave him) held him down , I kept beckoning on him but he was mute and couldn’t talk or move and they blocked me from getting to him. Fast forward to his birthday in November, we talked on that day and shortly after he stopped taking my calls, days later he called me and told me to move on with my life for no reason and blocked me everywhere. He even seemed to be avoiding me in church.
I told God I would no longer pray concerning it after January this year and to my surprise a man who is currently trying to woo me called me to say he fell into a trance/revelation (he said he couldn’t explain it) and he saw that the guy returned and to take my hand. I felt bad because I was really hoping to move forward with this new guy (he’s a believer and strong in faith) so why would God show it to him
I have been so devastated and confused. I am tired of this thing, I want it to end. I have prayed and I’m almost tired of praying. I am tired of rejection and failed relationships. In the past men who were so much in love with me would all of a sudden physically run or hide when they see me. I’m tired of it! I used to give up easily but I told myself this time I won’t, I’m turning 26 on Saturday the 20th of March and my 1 request is for God to settle me and bring this ordeal to an end to the glory of His name.
Also I keep seeing 2 people (sometimes male and female) trying to catch me or take me back to the house I grew up in as a child (a rented apartment my family moved out of in 2012). I need God’s mercy and divine intervention, please pray for me.