Wed | Apr 3, 2019

He’s Too Close To His New Friend



Dear Lady. Ann:

I saw your post about leaving your friends for your relationship and it made me want to share my story. My boyfriend and I live together. It was based on our financial situation. It made more sense living together because we were always together anyway, and we could save more money living under the same roof. I have always been a hustler. I work a minimum of 2 jobs, but currently three jobs. My boyfriend has one job, hence why he’s home more often than I am.

Whenever I’m home, I really just want to sleep or do something at home. If that makes me a boring person, then so be it. He always wants to hang out and I keep declining. So, when he recently met a gym buddy, I was glad he finally had someone he could hang out with. The problem is, they are beginning to spend a whole lot of time together. My boyfriend usually spends an hour at the gym, but he comes home like 4 hours later. Whenever I ask what he’s doing for so long, he says they were just chilling. Even when he’s home, they are constantly chatting on the phone, talking about stupid shit that don’t make no sense. That shit irritates me. What are two grown men talking about for hours? I know women can hang around each other for hours and still have something to talk about, but men? I complain about it but he says he doesn’t get what my problem is.

I’m not the jealous type but I would hate to be so comfortable that I don’t know when things are going on around me. How do I make him reduce the time they spend together? Is it normal for men to spend so much time together EVERYDAY?! Could he be gay? Forgive me, I just don’t want to be taken unawares.

-Intruded

#DLATribe, does she have reasons to be worried?