Dear Lady. Ann:
I’ve been in a relationship with my daughters father for about 8 years, our daughter is 3 years old. He was my person, I loved him deeply. He was the one I see myself getting married to. I would go above and beyond for him. Everything I did I involved him. We had a lot of complications within the relationship during the years, we would argue about little things till we were just tired of the arguments and he said we should end things. I didn’t want to because I thought we could work it out if we had gone for counseling. I was not ready to give up on us, but to him our time had expired. He is with someone else now for almost 2 years, but for the time they have been together we were still very close. We would still do things together, go out with our daughter. There were times we were still sexually involved, we spent Christmas together as a family and we started the new year together.
The later part of January we had a big argument, a few days after he shared that he was planning to get married to the young lady. When he told me this, I wanted to pass out. I stood there, unable to breathe properly for more than an hour because I was having a panic attack. After that day, I have not been the same. I can’t sleep, I don’t eat the way I’m supposed to. I feel like I’m just existing. I cried many days, at home it’s just me and my 3 year old. When she is sleeping, it’s just me and my thoughts and most time I can’t deal with the silence because its loud. Now I’m doing better than I was before. His family and I are very close, they are the only friends/family I have apart from my mom. It’s just hard to deal with it some days because everywhere I turn there is some kind of reminder of what used to be.