Dear Lady. Ann:
Please keep me anonymous. In 2015, I met him when someone from work invited me to attend a women’s conference at church, which at the time, I had fallen away from my relationship with God but trying to find my way back to God. On that same day he didn’t even know who I was and yet he said God has shown him that I was his better half. To cut a long story short, he asked for my numbers, I gave them to him. Then the nightmare started. We started chatting and he tried to make an appointment with me to meet with him over coffee but there was something that was telling me not to agree to it.
According to me, we are just colleagues at church. We continued to chat and he asked me to come to my house, I disagreed to it and told him that I can’t allow him to come to my place because of my daughter and he wanted to insist and I told him to stop contacting me. There is something about him that was not making me comfortable but I kept being polite and accommodative in chatting with him. What I didn’t realize is that I was creating a monster for myself. He kept on asking me what kind of wedding I wanted and I told him not knowing that he was gathering information and in his own mind and world, I was agreeing to him marrying me.
After some time, he then asked me again and I refused and he said I was rude and he would not get married to a rude woman like me. He stopped communicating with me and I thought that it was over, only to my surprise it was the beginning of my nightmare. He came after me, when I threatened to tell the Pastor, he would stay away for a while. Stopped talking to him for sometime and what I didn’t know was that he was planning the engagement with me without me knowing. He had told the Pastor that he want to surprise me in front of everyone at church but the Senior Pastor disagreed. He came to me and told me that he has moved on and he was and was going to get engaged to someone else only to find out that, I was that someone else. I didn’t know that for some people, being polite and accommodative was dangerous. I just didn’t want to be rude to him.
I am a private person, I don’t like talking about my problems to people at church or at work unless I have built a relationship with the person to talk about my confidential things. I didn’t want to report this to the Senior Pastor who is his old friend. Every year after that, he would create a drama and I kept it to myself. This time he has gone out of line and I’m starting to loose it, but a lady I’m close to, who is a leader of the home fellowship, has volunteered to speak to the Pastor about it.
I need prayers to stop this nightmare
Kind regards