Dear Lady Ann:
My story is a bit long but I will try to make it short. All my life, my greatest desire has been to marry a man who was God’s perfect will for me. I always felt that if God didn’t choose for me, I would make a mistake. I live in Nigeria but have been trying my hands on relocating to Canada. When I mentioned this to my best friend, she remembered her friend who lives in Canada and decided to match make us (we had all been in the same university but I barely knew him). According to her, when she mentioned me to him, he told her that he had been seeing me on Instagram and had wanted to reach out but wasn’t sure I was single.
My friend told me so many great things about him, one of them being that he was also born again. She always knew that I had told God that I wanted “exceeding abundantly” in my marriage, and she was ecstatic when she told me that this guy was very well fit into that category. She even went as far as saying that if not that her husband was God’s will for her, she would have liked to marry this guy instead because of how good he is. Finally the guy reached out to me and we had some good conversations but after a few weeks, he became so inconsistent in communication that I stopped contacting him entirely hoping he would pursue me but when he didn’t, I decided to forget him. I was at the point in my life where I wanted someone serious.
Some time after we stopped communicating, I was praying one day, after a period of worship, while praying in tongues, I heard myself calling this man’s name again and again. At first I was surprised because I had not thought about him in weeks. Before I knew what was happening, it became a constant occurrence where I would always call his name while praying, especially when praying in tongues. After some time God started telling me that the man was indeed His will for me, and the exceeding abundantly I had been praying for, but it was hard for me to accept seeing how dethatched the guy had been when we were in communication. In the weeks that followed, God told me so much about him and our future together. God even asked me to love him, and not to reject him when he comes. At some point, I tried reaching out to the guy again but he withdrew again after a short while – this made me struggle even more with all God had been telling me.
One morning God told me to stop waiting and start preparing, and that was the very morning I came across your video for the first time on YouTube about how you met your husband. I really do not know what to do. All I want really is to marry a man who is God’s perfect will for me whether this man or another, but I really do not know what more to do so that this man can see me as his wife.
I hope you will read and respond.
Thank you for all you do.
Love,
Ellie