Dear Lady. Ann:
This may sound rather cliche maybe but my story started 3 years ago when I moved to a new church. I am confused but I am also stuck. I met this guy in the church that I used to go to. When we met, I knew he was seeing someone. They weren’t married but they were dating. Somehow me and this guy started talking. It started as friends of course with no intention of anything because I knew he was seeing someone then. In the midst of our conversations one day he said he loves me. I didn’t say anything back but I started developing feelings for him. I eventually broke things off with him because I knew I didn’t want to be a third wheel. I know I shouldn’t have fallen for him but I did.
However, after a while I found out, not from him but from someone else, that his GF then was carrying his firstborn. Honestly I never knew anything about this. Of course by then I was already angry with him for keeping this from me, if he ever was in a serious mind of being with me. I genuinely loved him. Of course I’m still angry and disappointed. His GF did find out but there weren’t any confrontation between me and her. We talked like nothing’s happened (me and his GF). A year ago now, his GF passed away.
And now after one year he has gotten in touch, wanting to reconnect, which I must say I saw it coming, at least back of my mind. I must say he was one of the person who I started bible study and prayer with.
When we both started talking I shared with him that when I get into a relationship it’s final and must end in marriage. I’m not getting any younger. How can I know what is the right thing to do now. I know I was stupid enough to get too close to him. It’s not the only thing he has kept from me. He even lied to my face when the elders of the church confronted us about this. Somehow it got messy. But when that confrontation took place I had already broken things off with him.
Please advice
Thank you
Debbie