Dear Lady. Ann:
I am 23 years old. A year ago, September the 2nd, I went to a young leader’s meeting at church and I remember being very sad at that time because I had just broken up with my ex-boyfriend five months back in March. On top of all that I was tired of going on non-successful dates that ended up no where. I completely became emotionally unavailable. I remember in the meeting, one of the praying points was a “prayer for future husbands”. And I told God just how tired I was and that I pray the man that comes next be my future Husband. Same week on Friday the 6th, as I was walking back home with my friends, I saw this guy with a group of friends and my spirit completely moved but I didn’t give it much attention. As we were walking past, they came and approached us, that same guy I saw, came towards me and pulled me aside, asked for my number and we started talking. Everything went well.
Good communication skills, consistent, caring and all the green flags he had, But later as we continued getting to know each other, I found out that he does not believe in God, I was shocked! It was really unbelievable!! Even worse his surroundings (friends) are non believers. They are more of science than of God’s type of people. And what is ironic is that he grew up in church, he would quote verses, he knows all these stories from the bible and his parents are devoted Christians. I don’t know anymore, I’m starting to think maybe God put me in his life to pray for him/ help him get saved. We are currently not on speaking terms right now because I have been a bit toxic (controlling, complaining), but all that came from trying to show him the Godly way. Well, he also played a part in our current situation. I’ve been feeling neglected lately and I addressed it, he called and apologized. The following day he came to see me. I think most of the things that happens in our connection is because he is not a believer. He told me to tell God to come see him (haha), so that he can “see” that He exists. He is basically a Thomas. Should I just leave him alone or hope for that best? He cut me out of his life, he said what we have is not working but he he does not mind talking to me anytime and he won’t delete my number.