Dear Lady. Ann:
I’m so confused and need some help and advices. I think that I’m different from my siblings and my parents always complain about my behavior. Is it bad not to be like others, is it bad to accept yourself just the way you are? I’m 25yrs old and still live with my parents, my life isn’t fast like other ladies who own their house at this age, and my prayer is to move from their life and leave on my own. Lady. Ann, I know that I do act weirdly, sometimes I wake up in bad moods and when I don’t feel like talking and want to be alone with myself, my step mom thinks that I’m mad at her, and she start behaving abnormally, meanwhile if others do act the same way, she finds it to be normal.
My father doesn’t allow me to do things on my own, if I take a decision alone, I’m in trouble. You talk back and try to let them let you grow, they say you don’t respect. Sometimes I wish I had another family because I’m really not happy in this family. The only thing I want now is to be far away from them, live my life away from them and won’t even care about them because they are always not satisfied with what you do. Both step mom and father. The way my step mom treats her children is far different from us who are not her real children. She always complain about our behaviors but her own are perfect. Yesterday, my sister who was sent abroad called. There is a misunderstanding between the two of us. For no reason, she got mad at me that I don’t even know the reason, I used to call her but now, I have stopped because of the way she was treating me. So yesterday she called and to be franc, I didn’t want to talk to her.
I can’t do as if nothing happened so I told my father I didn’t want to talk to her. My father complained that my sister called and I don’t want to talk to her. That I should change my behavior and a whole lot. Without even asking what was going on and just insulting me. When I have an argument with any member of my family, they always put all the blame on me and never on the other party. They sometimes say that my heart is black, that I don’t love people, I am wicked. And it really hurts me. They find nothing wrong with others but that I’m not like others, they see all to be wrong with me. This new year coming, I decided not to accept any bullshit from them or anyone. I’m planning on living on my own. I can’t be with them anymore not to even spend time with them. I can’t be with a family who always see things to be wrong with you. What I need is a good relationship with God and be closer to Him more. The rest, I don’t care about them anymore and it is better if I’m not part of their lovely family.
They have done it, I feel uncomfortable to be around them.