Dear Lady. Ann:
I was in a relationship with a man I met in college and things were moving right not until I found out he was playing us and had also gotten the other girl he was dating pregnant. When I realized this, I decided to keep silent about it and broke up with him not knowing. Later I realized I was pregnant after a month and was forced to tell him but he didn’t take it seriously since I had ghosted him for a month and also he blocked me from WhatsApp and could only access him via Facebook. I stood my ground and also blocked him and didn’t want anything to do with him. At that time I was stressed out, I was on the verge of loosing my job if found pregnant because I had landed a job as a graduate trainee and was not supposed to get pregnant until we had completed the contract.
My family was not doing well financially so I had to choose between the job and the baby. Unfortunately I aborted the baby and from then I distanced myself from him for a whole year and 4 months. During that period my friend who is a guy was comforting me because I used to tell him about everything. Well this friend asked me out and I started dating him, maybe because I was lonely and heartbroken and he says he is not ready to be in a relationship because he was also hurt from a previous relationship. But he claims he likes me. Well I am confused. My ex claims he wants me back that he is not ready to lose me, truth is I still feel for him but he is already cohabiting with the lady he got pregnant, so I am just confused. What should I do about this.