Dear Lady. Ann:
I broke up with my ex of 6 years but I still love him. He was my university sweetheart. When we were still at the university, everything was ok, we got along very well but things started to change when we graduated and started working. My ex was the ever busy type after university, he never had time for me even going out on dates, he always said he was busy. I never gave up on the relationship, I would make sure when I get time I would pass by his work place after work. One time I told him how he had changed but he denied it saying I’m exaggerating things. He actually started blaming me saying I’m too controlling. Since I never wanted to cause trouble, I retracted – gave him the space so that he can be the man in the relationship.
During that time, he never asked to see me, he would call after a week or so and that was about 3-4 months – mind you we stay in the same city. I couldn’t take it then I broke it off with him. I thought since we were together for all these years he would try to fight for the relationship but he never did. I was so heartbroken such that I ended up getting into a rebound relationship. When he heard that I was seeing a new guy, he came back saying he wants to fix things. I was so happy to hear this and I cut out all communication with the guy i was currently with.
First month of us being together he was just like how he was when we were in the university. Then out of nowhere he changed again. This time he was saying he feels like I cheated on him during our breakup phase and he no longer trusts me. Sometimes he feels like he loves me and other times he doesn’t. After that he never talked to me again. I was left broken again. I tried calling him so that we can try to fix things but he still says I cheated on him and is not comfortable having me back. I’m so hurt. Right now I’m even scared to move on, my heart still wants my ex back. What should I do? Its almost a year now since the break up.