Dear Lady. Ann:
Please keep me anonymous. Okay, so my ex husband and I separated for a year and then divorced in December. It is June and we didn’t get along until March. He started a new relationship before the divorce was final which hurt me badly; so signing the documents wasn’t hard to do. During the marriage there were a lot of physical, emotional, spiritual, mental abuse from him and verbal on my end because of the problems he was causing. Since he’s been with this other individual he tells me that he’s been thinking about me and our children and wanting to be in one relationship and his choice is me. He says he’s changed into a better person blah blah blah and so on. He says he needs time to figure out some things but I’m thinking why should there be time needed if we’ve turned a new leaf for the better separately?
We slipped up and were involved sexually unexpectedly. We both expressed our intentions and I understand things takes time. However; if I am the one he wants what’s the time for? The female he’s involved with is actually the girl who helped ruined our marriage. She has shown up at my job and everything. I’m guessing to provoke me which she did not accomplish. She is the least of my worries. I am just trying to see which way I should go. I’ve always been made out to feel like I am negative, an overthinker, or “don’t know everything” but I do know what I don’t want to do and that is waste my time.
I am not here for games with this man, and I am not waiting forever on him. I have expressed what I expect and need. I would love to meet the man of my dreams so I can close this chapter and have the home my children and I all deserve and the blessings to be honest. I am finally ready to love again and receive all the good in store. I figured why not try with my kids father since we’ve both matured in ways. This whole trust the process mess makes me not even convinced a little bit that I should even be excited. Is this normal because I am a pretty intelligent woman and I just don’t think it takes all this to make a decision.