Dear Lady Ann:
I’m writing this letter hoping to get your best advice. My daughter’s father is the only man I have known and we were together for three years. During those three years a lot happened. Especially while pregnant with my daughter, we had a bad argument and he left me for a little while then came back. He left me again and now he walked away again for third time. For the past four months we haven’t been together. I told him that this was his last time to walk away, he can’t come in and out of my life when he wants to.
My biggest mistake I regret until today was living together without marriage. As a born again Christian I want to make things right with God. That was when he left me because I tried to talk to him about the importance of marriage. However, he’s not saved or either walk with God, that’s hard. At the moment he wants to give our relationship another chance, he said he missed me and our daughter. He wants our family back, but I on the other hand, I don’t know if I can trust him with so many incidents of him leaving me over small problems every relationship face. I have been praying to God, I have asked God to forgive me for my sins. As well as praying for my future husband but it seems God keeps returning the same man back to me. What should I do? If I considered taking him back.
At times I believe that it’s a demonic spirit that’s chasing him away because it doesn’t make sense how suddenly this man realizes he needs his family back or he’s leaving. I know I had generational curse and I have already prayed and broken it. My point is I need advice to make the right decision because this time around, if we’re back together I will want us to work toward getting married. Which is not a small decision to make after all these especially him being not saved by God. How will I go about this? Should we stay separate and work things from a distance for the sake of our daughter. I’m also praying about it because I’m leaning towards God’s understanding not mine. At the same time although I was finished with this relationship. However it will be a wonderful thing if it works out because I truly want to be married one day and I truly want more children in the future I pray God helps me. It’s all a matter of what decision I make moving forward. Thank you Lady Ann, I enjoyed writing to you and I hope to get the best and honest advice from you.
Stay blessed, warmly Melinda