Dear Lady. Ann:
I have been with my partner for 15 years now, we met each other when we were both at varsity. He is my first boyfriend and I his first girlfriend. We watched each other achieve milestones and always supported each other. He decided to move in together three years ago, the excitement was there because I thought of our relationship was moving forward in the direction of marriage. I then slipped into a deep depression because I was bullied at work by my colleagues and obviously it impacted my relationship at home without me even knowing. My partner never expressed his concerns to me about our relationship, I thought everything was okay. Last year October, he broke up with me and said we are no longer working out. It came as a huge shock, I asked him whether he was seeing someone else and he looked straight on my face and said No, where does he have time for another women. I believed him because he was the most honest person I know and trusted him with my whole life because of our history.
One day in December he came home and told me that he kissed one of his colleagues and that her boyfriend walked in on them kissing, her boyfriend obviously assaulted him. I then discovered that he has been involved with her for some time and I had no idea about what was happening around me. I discovered that he bought her gifts and she for him, she is from another faith Muslim girl. I asked him why would he even get involved with someone who has a boyfriend and he told me that he was unaware of her having someone. He told me that he likes her. I asked him to pack his things and go. I don’t trust him, I am so hurt that I cry every day since I found out in December. I pray for healing but the pain is still there, I just wish I didn’t love him this much.