Dear Lady. Ann:
My fiance and I have 2 kids together. We have been dating for 4 years and we also live together. He has a son with his ex and his son comes to spend the weekend with us once every month. I don’t have a problem with the child or his mother, I believe as long as he is taking care of his responsibilities with me, we will be fine. We both agreed to go on vacation later in the year and I am the one planning it. He is not so big on planning, so I have handled everything, just checked in with him on free dates and all. Anyway, I planned the trip for just us, that is my fiance and I plus our two kids. I expected for him to know that because if not, I would have mentioned his son. But I didn’t and neither did he.
So, we recently had a big fight because he realized I didn’t buy tickets for his son. I got really angry because if he wanted his son to come along, he should have said so from the get go, and given me the money for his tickets as well. This is our first vacation together and he has had a few months to mention that his son would be coming with us. He thinks I was being greedy and petty when I didn’t suggest for his son to come along. I don’t get how he would expect me to buy a ticket with my money for his son in the first place. That’s his responsibility. Yes I used my money to get him his own ticket but that’s because I know he is going to refund me for all the expenses of this trip. Anyway, it has been one argument or the other, and I am getting sick of it. I don’t even feel like taking him along anymore, because I don’t need that kind of energy around me. Do you think I was wrong for not planning for his son as well?
#DLATribe, what do you think?