Dear Lady. Ann:
I have a huge family; sometimes a little too big with a lot of drama. I have 5 sisters ages ranged from 33 to 14 almost 15 and I’m 17. My father has 2 Older Sisters, one with 2 kids and the other with 4. So if you added It up, my grandparents have 11 Grand kids and that’s only on my dad’s side of the family.
We would have something called Wednesday night dinner every single week where all of the grandchildren and my dad’s sisters would go to my Grandparent’s house and have dinner every Wednesday. We would have Easter celebration, Christmas, and we would have a birthday on grandma Night. Just imagine 30 people coming to everything and having my gramma cook these meals. Even when I was little I would help her cook, it was always so much fun!… until one day… when one accusation that changed it all for the worse.
For privacy for my family I’m going to name the characters different names.
I’ve been told many things with broken details but this is what I gathered as a whole. My cousin, I’ll call her Kathy Oliver. One day out of nowhere Kathy accused one of my sisters I’m gonna call her Haley Silver. So one day Kathy accused my sister Hayley of inappropriately touching her once when they were a little, while playing a Doctor game a while back ago, maybe 10 years. I’m not sure but I do know that it was a long time ago. So Kathy wanted none of the Olivers to be around any of the Silvers so that included no more Wednesday night, no more birthdays together, no more Easter nor anything together with them. It’s been about 5 or so years after that but the effects are still happening. They haven’t been to any thing for a while and there’s no laughing like there used to be… for my grandma and grandpa’s 80th birthday party’s was the last time we were all together.
Understandably my parents were not happy and was told this stuff probably too early because my little sister and I were in elementary school. I’m now 17 and my sister just turned 15. I was old enough to make a reasonable decision on my feelings, but my sister was still easily swayed (not on purpose), so she has a lot of resentment and anger but I have empathy for kathy. Even though I’m not positive it happened or not… well that doesn’t matter anyway… she still may have gotten molested. I think the resentment from the entire family, including hers, shadows that and no one is even open to consider. I have told my side in conversations but they always brush it off… I guess I’m the only one in the family who still cares for her. I guess I’m not looking for advice… just for someone to listen to my side.