Dear Lady. Ann:
I met my Boyfriend 2 years ago and our relationship has been great for the most part. He told me he was still married but they were separated and working on their divorce. I don’t do married men, but he was separated so we started dating. He is an amazing man to me. Gives me all the attention I need and treats me very well. There’s never been a day he hasn’t called to check up on me. I have a son from another relationship and he treats my baby so well too. My son adores him. My problem is his wife.
It’s been two years and she is still holding off on the divorce. She kicked him out and requested a divorce, but now I think she wants him back. I really love this man and I was there for him these past two years. He has 3 kids with his wife and when I ask him to be firm with his wife and let her know there is no future between them, he says there is too much history there for him to treat her harshly.
She doesn’t even know he’s been seeing another woman. Each time his kids are with him, he says I can’t meet them yet because he wants to let them heal from the separation. It’s been two years already though, and I think they have done enough healing. I know he loves me, but I think he is too scared of his wife taking his kids away from him when she finds out about us.
So, I’m thinking of calling his wife and introducing myself to her. She needs to know he has moved on and started a family with me. I think a mature conversation, woman to woman, would solve this whole mess. Maybe that would make the divorce faster. What do you think Lady. Ann?
-Tired Of Waiting
#DLATribe, should she talk to his wife? Will she be crossing a boundary? What should she do?