Dear Lady. Ann:
I am not the perfect guy but when I’m in a relationship, I give it my all. There is a lot of bad rap out there against the black man, but I dare to say there are so many other black men who are responsible, faithful and devoted to their children. I’d count myself as one of such men. I was in a one-year relationship that just didn’t work out, which is fine. Life goes on. When I end a relationship, I cut all ties. I don’t believe in being friends after we’ve ended the relationship. So, I moved on from my ex and we never spoke on the phone. But I saw her months after and noticed she was pregnant.
I didn’t approach her, but I was not able to get that image out of my mind. I reached out to her on social media and I was very direct with her. I asked her if the pregnancy was mine and she said no. I didn’t push further and took her word for it. But it’s been three years and I keep thinking about the baby. I saw a few pictures she posted of the child, a boy, and I think he looks like me. She also has pictures of a guy she is currently seeing, and he seems involved in the child’s life. I didn’t find any information on the child’s father, she seems to be mute about that. I feel strongly that he’s my son. She probably didn’t tell me because she thought I wouldn’t step up to the plate as his father. But that’s a wrong impression. I would have stepped up. I take care of my own. If the child is mine, he has gone three years without having a father in his life. I want to confront her about it and even demand for a DNA test, but I don’t want to make any moves that would either piss her off or scare her away from me. I never want to lose the chance of being in my son’s life. How do I go about it?
-Possibly A Father
#DLATribe, what’s the best way to ask his ex if her son is his?