Dear Lady. Ann:
My husband and I have been married for over 12 years and I used to think it was okay to share everything with your partner. In my desire to have that kind of relationship with my husband, I opened up about my past and some family issues. I spoke about past struggles, failures and present disappointments from specific members of my family. I regret being that open with him, because he never misses a chance to use these things against me in an argument.
He is so judgmental of my family. Analyzes every mistake made and treats them with disregard whenever they are around. He respects people who are not just rich but live a decent and admirable lifestyle. Since my family does not fall under that category, he does not give them the respect I think he should. I feel really sad about this and we are constantly arguing about it.
I love my family and it hurts me when he says certain things, but he doesn’t see it that way. He thinks I hate facing the truth of my family “being a failure”. I fear this would destroy our marriage, as I can’t seem to love him like I used to. I know things would have been better if certain family members had made better decisions, but he does not need to word it like he does. He fails at times too in our marriage, but I never hold it against him. I love my family and I can no longer stand him calling them names and being disrespectful towards them. What do I do?
– Feeling Disrespected
#DLATribe, how can she handle this? Should she stop telling him anything about her family?