Dear Lady. Ann:
I just recently came across you on FB and I would need your Godly advice and that of your followers. Last year, I broke things with my ex because he was going through a rough path. I tried my best to support him but I couldn’t any longer because it was telling on my mental health. While dating my ex, I was introduced to a guy who is based oversees and wanted a wife. We got chatty for a day and I found out he was kinda proud. I didn’t continue the chat with him. Now the main issue. My ex wants me back. To be truthful, I want him too because I still love him. He’s someone who wants the best for me. Advises me when I need it. He supports me in the little way he can and offer prayers to God on my behalf. Like he’s the man I wish for. I don’t feel judged when with him. I can definitely be myself. We are like best of friends. The only problem stopping us from getting married is his inability to have a job. He’s job hunting.
Also, this New guy is back. He has the means to start a family. He’s is godly, quotes the bible and fears God. I think he’s a good man but my heart is hesitant. I don’t know if he’s someone who would support me in my career as I’m a career person. He had this expectations of me because of what they told him about me. I’m scared because what about if I’m not what he envisage? My mum feels I should give him a chance because to her you never can know. My spiritual mother says so too because the new guy comes from a good family and would help my family financially. I’m confused here. I do not want to follow their advice because it seems to me it’s just the money.
My ex, even though he’s scared to lose me, is saying I should go be with him if it’s the will of God. Prior to the time both men started seeking me out, I had a dream where I was told to be patient. That the right man will stay.
I want to be happy and also enjoy my marriage. But will I be with this new guy? I have started fasting and prayer for confirmation from God but I still need your advice. Help a confused lady.